Healing the Wounds of Trauma

This stagemay last for amonth or longer after the loss. It can begin during the time of the funeral, and while people are still coming to comfort the bereaved family. Weeping and rituals of the wake and burial are often helpful. ❂❂ DISCUSSION IN TWOS Think of a loss you have experienced. Did you have any of these feelings? Explain. B. The Camp of No Hope Camp 2 is called the Camp of No Hope. When people get to this camp, they often feel sad and hopeless. They might find it hard to organize their lives. They still continue to long for the dead person to come back. They may feel very lonely and neglected and may want to kill themselves. It is possible that they may feel guilty—as though it was their fault the person died—even when there is no reason for this. The questions that started in Camp 1 may continue. Often people stay in this Camp of No Hope for 6–15 months. C. The Camp of New Beginnings Camp 3 is called the Camp of New Beginnings. People who have accepted and grieved their loss can move on to Camp 3. At this point they begin to think about making a new life for themselves. They are ready to go out with their friends and have fun again.Those who have lost their spouse begin to think about another marriage. If they lost a child they may want to have a new baby. But people are changed by the loss; they will not be the same as they were before. If they have grieved well, they will be stronger people who are able to help others. D. Not always a direct journey The grief journey is not always direct. It is quite normal for people to revisit previous camps for a short period of time. Someone who has arrived at Camp 2 may re-experience a few days of feeling very angry and then leave that behind again. Sometimes people may even start

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What Happens When Someone Is Grieving?