Healing the Wounds of Trauma

3. How can you provide a way for children to talk about their painful experiences?

E. Teenagers have particular needs. Teenagers go through a difficult period of life even when there are no serious traumas. Some problems that may arise after a traumatic situation may be due simply to the age of the child. Teenagers have a need for their own private space. This is particu- larly true for teenage girls. When families are in crisis, understanding a teenage girl’s need for privacy can help, even if parents are not able to provide her with much privacy. Teenagers need to discuss things with their peers. This should be encouraged, especially after a traumatic event. Teenagers need to feel useful, especially when their family is going through difficulties. If they can do things that help their family sur- vive, this will give them a sense of worth. F. We need to help teachers and school administrators understand what is happening. Parents and other leaders should arrange a time to meet with the school director and teachers to discuss what has happened. They need to understand how the trouble has affected the children and their performance at school. If the teachers understand the situation, they will be more patient with the students and will be a part of the healing process. G. Serious cases If a child is still showing serious problems after a year, some mature, wise person needs to spend a lot of time with that child. God can heal the child, but it will take time. He or she may need professional help.

CLOSING SMALL GROUP EXERCISE

Discuss how you treat children. Identify children in your area who need special help and plan what can be done for them. Pray together for these children.

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How can we help children who have experienced bad things?