Healing the Wounds of Trauma

never be repaid. But if someone has stolen a bicycle, for example, the thief should return or replace it (Nu 5.5–7). Sinmust be paid for, even if it involves great expense. God gave us the model to follow when Jesus paid for the sins of the whole world on the cross—and he was completely innocent (Col 1.20–22). ❂❂ SMALL GROUP DISCUSSION How are the biblical ideas about forgiveness similar to our cul- tural ones? How are they different? When we are angry, we can give Satan a foothold into our hearts (Eph 4.26–27). We become slaves of anger and bitterness and they begin to destroy us. If we do not forgive someone who has offended us, we are the ones who suffer. Refusing to forgive can make us physically ill with headaches, stomach ulcers, or heart problems. It may make us become as violent and evil as those who offended us. Forgiveness releases us from all this. We forgive for our own good (2 Co 2.10–11). If we do not forgive others, we pass our hatred on to our children. This can result in cycles of revenge and violence between groups which can go on for generations.The letter to the Hebrews tells us: “Try to be at peace with everyone, and try to live a holy life, because no one will see the Lordwithout it. Guard against turning back from the grace of God. Let no one become like a bitter plant that grows up and causes many troubles with its poison” (He 12.14–15). Only forgiveness can break the cycle and begin the healing process. B. Forgiving others allows us to receive God’s forgiveness. God’s forgiveness depends on our forgiving those who offend us. Mat- thew 6.14–15 says, “If you forgive others the wrongs they have done to you, your Father in heaven will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others, then your Father will not forgive the wrongs you have done.” (See also Mk 11.25.) 4. Why does God want us to forgive other people? A. Forgiveness frees us from anger and bitterness.

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How Can We Forgive Others?